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06-30-2004, 08:19 PM

[quote="brixtonman"]Hi there, are there any other London men here?

[I Just registered and saw your post first. It made me wonder, (in a registry, or collection of groups-- or however you view this forum) why does everyone want to talk to someone in their backyard??

--I do not live in London. I was born and raised in New York City. When I was in my 20's & early 30's I often traveled to London from NYC.

--I met many fine people in London, among them a wonderful man (when I was 21 y/o) who lived in a pleasant 4-story house in Sussex Gardens, just off Leicester Square. On every one of my trips back to London, I stayed with him.

--He was 27 y/o when we met-- He was a tall, blonde, masculine gentlemen-- and very handsome. He was kind, well spoken, well-educated, and generous to a fault. We made love nightly, although I also ran around with other men in the city.-- Being a New Yorker, I was just too restless to stay home in the evenings... and that didn't seen to bother him, so...

--He was a part-time free-lance music tutor. Most of his income came from buying old string instruments from people all over the British Isles, refurbishing the instruments, and then selling them for handsome sums to London musicians and collectors. He often took me on his buying trips throughout England, Wales, and Scotland. After my first few stays in London (I averaged 5-to-10 weeks per visit) I began to feel like a native.

--I just adored this man--his name was Tom Blackburn. He often asked if I would like to live in London, but I always felt the need to return to New York. A decision I now regret... but I won't go into why-- That's another story, and a long story, at that....

--Although we stayed in touch for many years, I guess it became difficult for him to maintain a "trans-Atlantic relationship", and eventually we lost contact with one another. This was before the Internet became so widely available. We kept in touch via "snail-mail" and occasional telephone calls. He never travelled to New York. I always went to London-- It was an arrangement that suited me, but I knew that Tom really wanted a LTR. He didn't talk about it, but I could tell. He clung to me whenever I was in London, and always treated me as if I was the only person in his life....

--He was the traditional type who longed for a long term lover, and I was quite the opposite. I was happy to be his lover when I stayed with him during my stays in London, but in New York I used to pride myself with never sleeping with the same man twice (which is easy to do in NYC). Then, still in my 30's, I aquired an "un-planned upon" long-term lover of my own (a native Alaskan-- the strong silent type), but after almost a decade together, our love ended late last year with his death from AIDS.

--He was HIV+ for about 5 years (that we know of) without ever once getting sick. In fact, it seemed to me as if he would never become ill-- he was so strong, well-built, and so very hardy. --Then just last year, the disease all hit him at once. He became very sick, then died, all within 3 months. I was devastated-- though I must say that I'm glad he didn't suffer for any prolonged time (as many others often do-- including a few very close friends). As for me-- I was, and still am, (remarkably) HIV-negative, and disease-free.

--Since my lover's untimely, and surprisingly sudden death (he was only 37 y/o) I have not sought out any other boyfriends/lovers, nor any kind of LTR, though I am a very social person. I'm fond of meeting new people, while treasuring my lifetime friendships. --

--By the way-- I hope I haven't bored you with my verbose reply.-- After all, -your original post to this message board was only a single sentence long!

--I have other friends scattered about the U.K. (the Internet has been instrumental in my making friends with gay men all over the USA, Canada, and Australia, as well as the U.K.), and I'm always trying to "meet" new ones. -- Some of the friends I've made have come to visit me from as far away as California and Canada-- Though not on the pretext of any sexual encounter.--

--In fact, the true test of a web-buddy is if he doesn't ask me how old I am (although I am not a kid, I am still reasonably young). I also dislike being asked about physical characteristics. After all, I am writing to people all over the planet, and even though I've entertained a few visitors that I first 'met' on the web, it's highly unlikely that most of us will ever meet in person.

--However, for those guys who simply must know-- (I'm aware that some people simply will not read or write to anyone they cannot visualize), I am a 6 ft. tall Italian-American New Yorker, masculine, bearded, well-educated, and considered attractive). --

--And I hope to hear from you-- My 2 most used e-mail addresses, for anyone who prefers to write directly, rather than post publicly, are:
Broadway_Badboy@yahoo.com and Astor_Plaza@yahoo.com --

-- Take care!

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